Frequently Asked Questions
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Have a question? Want to know a bit more about me or my counseling services? To help you get your answers quickly, I’ve compiled a list of some of the most popular questions I’ve received from clients, accompanied by thorough answers. Can’t find what you’re looking for? Get in touch and I’ll be happy to assist you.
I’m nervous about starting therapy. Is that normal?
Therapy can be vulnerable and new, so it’s natural to be nervous. It can be difficult to imagine the words around what you are feeling. Maybe you’ve experienced feeling tongue tied when trying to open up to friends or loved ones in the past. The fear around that can feel overwhelming. It takes courage to start going to therapy. The fact that you are on this website, looking for help, and reading this right now shows that you are being brave and seeking help.
Therapy is a space where you can be yourself and come just as you are, including feeling nervous. I’m committed to finding a way to care for your nervousness and ensure sessions are as comfortable as possible.
I’m here if you want to talk about it during a free phone consultation.
How do I know if you are the right therapist for me?
Take your time to read through my website. If you sense that I may be a good fit based on what you are reading, you can Email me.
during a free phone consultation, you can ask me questions about my approach, about how I have helped other people like you before, or any other questions you may have that are specific-to-you. You’ll also be able to speak to what’s bothering you and we can determine how I could best be of service to you.
It may be helpful to think of the first few sessions as trying out the waters together. During the sessions, you’ll be able to see how you feel working with me. My approach is not going to work for everyone. What’s most important to me is that you find someone who you feel is the right fit for you. We can explore that together.
What if I don’t want to talk about something?
If something feels overwhelming or even terrifying to discuss, that’s actually very normal. It can often feel difficult to talk about some things.. During our sessions, you never have to talk about something you’re not comfortable talking about. I’ll be there to guide you towards discovering what feels comfortable for you to share. Working with pace, we can look at the tough stuff if you’re ready.
You can also share with me that you are nervous to open up about something and we can talk about that too. Whatever is present for you. Whatever you are going through. Bring that to session and we can explore that together.
I’m scared that if I open up, you will think I’m too much, too sensitive, or just plain crazy.
If you open up to me, I will not think you are too much, too sensitive, or crazy, I will think you are courageous and human. Many of my clients have had the same fear (that people would think they are too much, too sensitive, or crazy).
Encountering struggle, challenges, and trauma is normal; it is human.
We all have “stuff” and that’s okay; I understand fear and shame around this and that is something we can work with too. Nothing you can say will cause me to judge you.
I know we all have our imperfections, we all struggle, we have all experienced some sort of struggle or trauma.
Whatever it is you’re going through, I provide a place of safety where you can feel heard, known, and understood and experience calm and compassionate connectedness.
Does what we talk about in therapy remain confidential?
It can be concerning feeling like things you say or do in therapy could “get out.” So I want you to know that unless there is an imminent danger to yourself or someone else, everything you share with me is completely confidential.
I highly respect your privacy and value your trust.
You can rest assured that you can talk about anything without fear of that information getting out.
If you have specific questions about how confidentiality works, you can ask during your during a free phone consultation or anytime during our work together.
How long will therapy take?
You might be asking about how long therapy will take because you are currently struggling and want relief fast.
If this is true for you, I want you to know that on average, my new clients start seeing small amounts of growth after the first a few sessions.
By that point, they they feel a little more calm and hopeful that healing is possible.
The total duration of therapy is similar among most of my clients. My clients tend to stay for 6 months to one year to better understand parts of themselves and learn to relate to themselves with compassion leading to better functioning and connection outside of the therapy office.
What can I expect during the first session?
Overall, you can think of the first session as a structured assessment that helps me get to know you and the challenges that brought you into treatment. I’ll invite you to share more about yourself and we can also talk about what’s worked or not worked for your mental health in the past.
Some questions that I like to ask during a first session include:
What’s present for you in your life right now?
Have you gone to therapy before? How did that go?
What do I need to know about you to understand your current challenges?
You can ask me questions as well. You might be curious about about how I view client struggles and my strategies to work through difficult thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
The most important part of a first session is to notice how you feel during and after the session. If you feel supported, seen, and safe with me, we can discuss if you’d like to meet again.
How can I get started?
I’m here to talk during a free phone consultation where you can speak to what’s bothering you and we can determine how I could best be of service to you.
Email me today to get your free phone consultation at firstname.lastname@example.org.